Vishwa Speaks

Because You Act Like That

When you meet people, you all picture an opinion about them. Sometimes you don’t even know that you form negative opinion about them. You form t but you are not aware of it. What happens is, when you speak with them or express your feeling via gestures, that picture in your mind reflects. This is naturally going to be gauged by the other person. Hence, it is advisable that you replace your thought immediately with something positive. Something like, ‘Even if they are like this way, it is fine.’ This simple change makes a huge difference in your attitude and also makes a very different impact on the others while you both interact. This was simple. A little difficult situation is when somebody is ‘mean’ or ‘harsh’ with you because you act like???

Believe it or not but all your efforts are taken as efforts by your seniors or friends only when it shows that you care for your work. Many times you might have wondered why your efforts are not appreciated by others. You have seen some people who even if do lesser work are still appreciated more and are held as more reliable than the dedicated happy go lucky ones. This is because, the seniors, when they see you working good but ‘just for fun attitude’, they find it difficult to trust you more with higher responsibilities than those who might be lazy but appear more serious.

This attitude of the seniors is in no way is justified or is the best approach to selection but it is what they do as it seems more secure. Do you want your work to be tallied keeping in mind your efforts and work output? Yes, then work on your attitude which should show that the work and the company as a whole matters to you. You do not work just for your pay or because you have to do it but let your inner dedication and focus reflect in your working style, when you speak, innovate and care.

Another place where this hurts is in your daily life. Many people speak to others, sometimes with you too because they believe that you of yourself as?? What you think of yourself may not be what the others understand neither is it someone else’s work to judge but they still do it. Their mind functions in such a way that you have no right to act like that when you are not that. The ‘judges’ disapprove your behavior. I have also witnessed them victimizing others by means of sharp words, disrespectful gestures, poking fun at them and with working against them. Hence it is very important to have your confidence, your inner genius and your concern to reflect instead of quietly doing your work without expecting anything in this day and age of competition. 

Nirvana

Nirvana is the attainment of freedom from temptations. It sets you free and gives you peace in life. How to attain it? You can attain it by being true to yourself. This is the beginning and the first step  towards the attainment of Nirvana. Until and unless you accept yourself, you won’t be able to set yourself free by releasing yourself from all that you are tied up with. 

Not the physical tie up but the mental, emotional and all the inner tie ups. Why Nirvana? Because this is a sure way of getting where you want to be by keeping yourself and your existence in complete control. 

We all have desires and goals in life. And we all should have them so we move forward towards a better life, a tremendous future and a brighter self. For this, nirvana has to be understood. Many have thrown light upon this subject because it is so vital in our life. Nirvana is the surest path to a good life where goodness and the feeling of well-being begins from within you and not from an external source or luxury. 

Look deep within your mind, try to understand it’s work and its limitations and relieve yourself of the burden. The burden of competition, the burden of a better performance in front of your peers, your boss, your spouse and also in front of strangers. Life itself gives you many challenges which when you face and deal with patiently and positively, you are spoken of well before others. When you get disturbed about the world and other people, you start feeling restless and try doing what you are not actually interested in doing. So you lose focus of your ongoing work and agendas and do what you think you should do to look good before others and also yourself.

If you feel you have not fulfilled your own expectations, relax and have compassion on yourself. It is not because you can do only limited activities, it is because you have been tackling a lot more than you have realized. You need to think about all the work you do throughout the day and in each phase of life so that you do not get trapped into the fear of judgment. It distorts your self confidence. No one wants that to happen to one. Then let us keep all those fears aside and love our self for what we have done and what we will be doing in the future. Life is full of opportunities and many questions. The answers to these unfold on its own with time. Give time a chance to work for you and keep doing what you are supposed to do. You will experience the life which you always dream of. It will surely happen to you. 

When Life Is Simple…

When you start taking decisions, all the ‘problems’ in life start with a would you or wouldn’t you do your work which has come your way  in daily life. This is to avoid the troubles which you would face if you skip your work. These activities are small and do not require much effort or preparation. But they have a great impact in your future and the times of great need.

Have you ever wondered how you managed to do that one thing when you just could not do it? Sometimes we end up fulfilling our expectations and even go beyond. This happens not magically. It happens out of efforts which you placed somewhere in your life while doing your work. Just a grand thought or belief makes you strong morally but for realizing it you need initiative and efforts.

What happens when you skip your work? It makes you work slow, it makes you share your confidence with those around you instead of totally on you, it makes you feel idle most of the times, it creates a vacuum in you and worst it makes you feel lost. For many, who start feeling the vacuum start relating it to other sad incidents in their life which is definitely not the case. You do it because that incident is the worst thing that has happened to you and you want to rationalize it and try to forget it. Which you don’t!

You may wonder why only you are having to face it, why not your acquaintance? We all face it because we all procrastinate and some time or the other take the wrong road just to be different or to see what will happen. All this, just because you chose to follow the unconventional where you should have followed the basic. Being a dare devil, trying out new stuff, experiencing life and doing what you want to do differently should be done where it fits best. Like in sports, your passion, your dream or your work where being proactive and being innovative is expected and rewarded.

One sure way to avoid the other troubles in life is by avoiding the question ‘What if’? ’What if’ is always a fear which will only come true if you fear. While doing menial works you do not bother about the ‘what ifs’. But you start worrying when it comes to something that you really want. If you wish to further pursue your passions and wishes, quit taking the wrong decisions ‘unknowingly’, by skipping the fear of What will happen if you do this? When you need to act, you act! March ahead sensibly and ‘reasonably’.

 Knowing that your life could be so simple seems tiresome. Say it to yourself that life is simple and the complications will be there when it ought to be. You need not create them when you feel that life has become a rut and it needs a change or a challenge. 

Eventually, it is up-to you how much you are willing accept and able to receive because receiving also requires a great deal of patience.

The “Foreigners”

How we treat the so-called “foreigners” totally depends upon our notion of how we think they are. Our ‘notion’ is built over the exposure that we have of them in various media and through personal experience. It is easy to misunderstand or expect too high of them when they are famous for any reason.

Now, when we encounter them is when our perception about them comes forward. While being with them, our reactions, actions, and gestures show it in anything we do. You may not be aware of how positive they are expecting you to be being the host or otherwise. For instance, at an ‘International’ award function. Everyone dresses up to his or her best style. Because it is an event where you stand a chance to be with big brands and you desire to be admired, accepted and be written off well in the reviews.

With this being the initial framework of your preparation to look your best, you finally get ready to walk the ‘red carpet’. Expected response tends to defer from the reality because of many factors. Here, let us take a preview how people from different backgrounds and culture look at each other. When an Indian meets anyone from the western country, he or she knows very well that the westerner will very confident in terms of his or her grooming, style, dressing, speech, and also their rich aura. While the westerners look at the Indians as the calmer lot with a lot of patience, dedication, joy, exuberance, hospitality, and so on. Then why the competition? It has been seen that when they both meet, there is a clear distinction between them no matter how well it is tried to be erased. Nonetheless, does the distinction look like an ‘ugly’ one? No!

The smile of tolerance and a down to earth culture should be adorned in public than a smile which shows this- ‘I am equal to the competitors’. There is no need to make a façade over reality. The reality is so beautiful and rich that it should be embraced, endorsed, and accepted with courage, grace, and pride. This is the culmination of amalgamation of different and various countries where the contrast in their culture, festivals, rituals and beliefs is rather celebrated than looked down upon with embarrassment. You will be better accepted and have a better stand in the overall picture if this is taken into consideration. 

Immediate Reactions v/s Long Term Vision

Many among us, mainly women, err by giving an immediate reaction. It could be an emotional drama or a verbal salvo. Nevertheless, has it ever given to you what you expected? Ask yourself and face the ‘No’!

There might be instances when your expectations were fulfilled. Because those people in your life cared for you beyond limit. However, do you assume everyone to be as caring and faithful each time with you? It is wise to listen to your conscious that probes you each time you take a step which would affect you otherwise.

It takes control to stop or change your path once you decide to move ahead with it. Would you rather prefer having a serious affair in life leading to misery, remorse and guilt? Mere reference of these words feel like a burden. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction, said Isaac Newton. Would you not rather embrace the fairer option of acting prude, which would further benefit you with your set long-term vision?

At times, long-term vision is not valued as highly as it should be by many. We human are never satisfied with what we have. This is a good thing as it drives us to work for a goal. Success in achieving our goal comes with vision. If you still go on expressing your wrath instead of being smart with difficult situations and people, it would hinder you from exercizing your ability of fine judgment, long term planning, and most of all from having a complete view of your current scenario. For sound reasoning leads to closeness while doubts lead to differences…

Tic Tac Toe *4

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Putting wisdom into words makes you ready for life.

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Some people are happy just because they are young. And some are sad just because they are old.

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Planned work helps also because you could hand it over to others in your absence. This is also what we call accountability.

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Sometimes you have to go that extra mile to make things happen. For certain things make you special.

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All the hatred around you has developed owing to love.

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A Case Study

Your child may not be interested in having a relationship with someone. But they still end up being in one at an early age. If you are fine with this then it is Okay. If you want to know how your little girl was unknowingly dragged into it, then read on.

There are some friends who take keen interest in match making. Therefore, in some cases, they initiate it. The girl sees the boy and thinks, ‘He is cute but not my type’. The boy knows that his friends have laid the foundation so he starts staring at the girl. He himself may not find the girl as per his expectations but he puts his heart in to pleasing and grabbing her attention.

Then the swearing begins. The boy ends up saying things like, “I will do this for her”, “She means a lot to me”, “Let’s go somewhere, your presence means the world to me”. Why would she not be flattered and carried away? To girls, the idea of kissing is all-romantic. It is nowhere close to greed, lust or how far one could go. Movies play a huge role in this mindset of young boys and girls. Every new relationship should be naughty. At times, it also happens that the innocent boy starts liking her. But when he does not, then he thinks of getting something out of it before getting out of it.

Girls do not know when and where to stop. They trust their new boy friend more than their close friends who warn her to stay away from him. And the same goes with boys. Their first relation is considered as true love. They trust the girl but she leaves him as soon as she gets bored of him. It hurts, doesn’t it? Warning here has no impact. The more you try to control your friend, the more she tries to get deeper into it. The story henceforward continues…

What you could do as  a parents is not keep nagging and cribbing about various things in life. Appreciate your child. Get him/ her into a sports and extracurricular activities, which will keep her going in tuff times. Such activities keep one occupied. Your mind is not empty. This activity becomes a support system when one looks for something to do apart from getting into a relationship and when one gets in to one and is hurt after a bitter separation.

Treat your child as prince and princesses. There is nothing wrong in pampering your child. Even if he or she is not how you wanted them to be. Do not differentiate. If you do not want them to find love or fake love outside the structure that you call home.

Kill It!

There are beasts in each of our lives who do certain things that create self-doubt in us. You must have been around those who are liked, favored, and pampered more than you. You know that they are fake and you deserve the appreciation more than them. What do they possess that you do not have?

The difference between them and you is that they do not have self-doubt. They beat it when they get them. This makes them deserving of what they get. It is fair right. But why do you think if you are yourself in public then you will not look good? This doubt did not exist in you since birth. It was instilled in you by someone. Many a times your childhood buddies are responsible for this. They mock and laugh at you. Each thing you do makes them laugh at you. Such activities sometimes have a deep impact on the personality.

You do not object or conquer it you just give up and avoid doing what you liked doing. This becomes a habit and you stop being yourself. You always project an image that you think is will be considered acceptable to all. You will still be held for being fake. Throw away the mask of inhibitions and be as gross as you are. You will be presentable and instead; you will realize where you should pause and where you should express your ideas freely.

Cut the impact in your mind that was made by those who treated you badly and those who constantly keep nagging. There will always be people around you who will knowingly or unknowingly disturb and suggest you to not to do things that you want to or are doing. But do not stop. Keep going. You could gather the strength to do this by helping those who are going through the same thing. This brings immense feel good factor in oneself.

You Look Down Upon Them

You go to a shopping mall and throw tantrums on the sales woman. You think it is okay to yell and show your disgust to them because they are not your boss. You are their boss! And why not? You have money. You spend the amount in minutes, which they slog to earn for days and months. Why should you not be proud of that fact?

You remember your days when you struggled and adjusted with your little savings. You also experienced the same thing. It hurt you when a woman younger than you came and stared at your clothes or shouted at your one mistake. You hated them, didn’t you? When you were there, you called the so-called rich brutes. Now when you are well off you like to be in their shoes. That is when you feel good about yourself. You feel that you have moved up from where you were.

Everyone wants to move one-step ahead with each changing phase of their lives. Let’s come to down yet again and understand that it is not easy to hear bad things from people. Whoever they are. The giver and the receiver both have a heart full of dreams and a little bit of attitude. Why shouldn’t they have it? When you are rich, you should know and experience that feeling to the fullest. But, those who are not there, yet also have a right to feel good of where they have reached out of their struggle.

In their minds, they still hold themselves as worthy of going to plush restaurants and have an 18-course meal. Who can steal their dreams? Not you. Definitely, no one can. The message here is clear. You have to be like humans and be patient with those below your level. They may be brash and try your patience in return. This must certainly offend you. But aren’t you at a better position than them to forgive and tackle them with tact? So do so. Show your greatness and generosity by doing so. After all, the rich get richer by giving. Haven’t you heard of that before? The rich get richer with earning more and feel better by forgiving more. 

THE POWER OF LOVE

You know that you are a storehouse of power and confidence. You also know that you can accomplish anything that you desire. Nothing can stop you once you decide. The only problem is that you never decide. Otherwise, you could transform everything.

There are others who feel that there is immense energy in them but they cannot get it out of them. Something stops them from applying their complete potential. This is true. Knowing what you have, exploring it to the fullest and putting all of this to action are three different things. For this, you need someone. You need care, love, understanding, and patience. All this not from yourself but from someone else.

It is hard to believe but it is true. Look around to see people who were low, lost or losers but won eventually when they found someone who would care for them. This love and the source of love need not necessarily be from your life partner. It could be your mom, dad, sis, friend, or anyone who cares of you TRULY. True love creates a stir in the person. This stir can ward off any sort of laziness, lethargy, fear, and lack of confidence.

However, you will also find people who have achieved and fulfilled their dreams all by themselves. If you could do that then it is great and if you need someone to create that stir in your guts then you need to work towards that. Yes! It involves a lot of passion that one must have in one’s own life. You should do one thing right. Right? Either you love someone deeply or you be so genuine that someone would love you till death. Nobody wants to die a loser. You must want and ACHIEVE at least one something in your life to feel good about being born. What say?

Someone’s love and care for you helps in getting your complete strength out in your endeavors. You can see your colleague, classmates, or even siblings who are cared and loved more tend to do better in life. For this, you need to work harder my friend. Make yourself lovable. It feels good to be a rebel because you are not understood or are not given the deserving attention. But you got to do what you got to do. Turn things around in your favor and get the taste of real life.

Tic Tac Toe *3

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If you cant think of someone whom you are crazy about then count the ones you like.

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You are as expressive in your life as expressive you are while you dance.

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Until you won’t stop and decide where you have to go, there will always be someone who would cut your wings and stop your flight.

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Everybody’s mind is visible on his or her body. You just have to be receptive of it.

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Don’t you think that it is important for you to know how far others know so that you don’t sound stupid?

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You plan a number of things to do but you wait for someone else to do it so that you don’t look stupid. Where is your originality dude?

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The numbers in your age counts when you retain the ability to resolve the conflicts that arise from time to time.

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Not just gravity, it is the warmth of a touch that keeps me firm on the ground.

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You should be watchful of your energies from making an impression on another while you are not aware.

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When you could require a circle to make an angle, why would you not require applying your mind in the matters of your heart?

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Where there is more pain there is more camaraderie. And where there is more comfort there is more competition.

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You wish to make an impact owing to which yelling and arguing has become a commonplace, try crying. It makes a better impact.

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In a quest to be you, please do not end up provoking people to do things that they did not intend to.

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Lying about another in front of someone, gives him an idea of how you may lie about him if you so need.

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The world is my teacher and I am a student, forever.

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Not everybody does what one wishes. We all compromise. 

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 Not all the chaotic noise is troubling;

Not all the soft whispers are soothing…

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Things that stress you while planning should be implemented calmly.

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You work makes you look good, bad, or ugly.

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I almost lost touch of singing owing to my fast changing life.

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Tic Tac Toe*2

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Be with the wise and be wise.

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Expect painful attitude from your seniors if you are nasty with your juniors.

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I was never low to sit down with you and show my concern thoughtfully.

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There is a time when even the most sensible words sound like forced wisdom. Therefore, do not expect the other to listen; rather wait for some time to speak. If you care enough, you would also care enough to control your desperation.

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Money makes confidence grow and judge those without it. You do not experience longing because you never had to wait for anything. You pointed at it and you got it. When you see someone waiting and striving to buy something, you find it cheap and start judging.

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Each attempt make at the initial stage succeeds because you pay attention minutely. While later on, you look broadly.

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You spend half of your life is receiving what everyone gives you and the other half in giving to those whom you owe.

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Sometimes in spite of reaching the right button, the door does not open because it is required of you to press it harder.

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If you are going to make many enemies then make yourself stronger than them.

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The more you gain control over your life, the more you lose control over yourself.

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If you follow the rules, nothing will pain.

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You think, they do.

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Walk until you collapse.

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To learn to be patient you should watch your favorite sci-fi movie with a five year old.

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The worst thing in true love is to not get the one. And the best part is to still find someone who loves you.

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School is the best time in life. And you spend that time in aping the older ones.

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In love, try to fulfill smaller demands rather than making big sacrifices. Because here, big looks really small and small looks relatively bigger.

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Sometimes, avoiding instead of facing brings you relief.

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Often powerful words from the outside are enough to give you the courage and the reason to move ahead.

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Smile, as you are happy and get what you wanted. As your face displays what it is fed with.

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Aging is a beautiful bond that brings discernment.

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Most of the first time problems come for the only time. Do not leave the damage to be unattended, lest the marks remain.

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You are the master of your life. So make sure you call it a happy life. Your mind picks it up when it is confused.

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The Trade In Life

You spend half of your life is receiving what everyone gives you and the other half in giving.  As a child, you receive food, clothing, shelter, education, etc. You are not expected to give anything in return except for obeying commands of those whom you belong to. When you grow up you are expected to work, earn, have a family, provide the family, give most of the things that they ask etc.

If following the life as mentioned above was so easy then there was no need for a counselor. Often the problem is the feeling of resentment when you have to give. It will be helpful if you give more often. Get a hang of helping people with little efforts. You will develop an attitude that will help you to give when it is necessary for your own happiness. There are mothers who like it when they have to admire the beauty of their child but they get angry when they have to give them a bath, clean their nappy etc.

If this could happen to a mother for her own child then it could happen to anyone. And it does, mostly once you are on your own. Everybody is supposed to be special and look as good as they want to. But some turn out to be gods and goddesses while others look just about average. When you know your problems then you can work on them and hide its effects. But when you are not fully aware of your problem then you seem to react awkwardly and it becomes hard to deal with. This is also a reason behind losing grace that you always had. People can easily spot that. Moreover, your reaction to their judgment lacks strength.

There are many such miniscule problems in life which are not problems by itself but they become problem in your minds and pricks you each time it crops up. That is why you always take charge and fully fulfill your responsibilities. Those who have understood this are remembered as great people. You will come across many such irksome tasks that you owe to do but you will shrink from it. Believe it or not this attitude makes you feel incomplete deep within your mind. If you are still not willing to take up all your work then arrange someone else to do it. This will make you a feel a little better.

The Rapist

Women have an excessive and uncontrollable desire to seek attention from the men. Men have an excessive and uncontrollable desire to have sex. If you do not want to be a topic of embarrassing gossip by the men then stop giving in to their temptations.

A rape happens in many forms like a date rape, gang rape, war rape and so on. It may happen at any stage of life. Sometimes it looks like an incentive. It can happen in the form of an offer for a hike in your salary or designation against a couple of hours with your senior. Mainly an offer to get a role in the film industry requires of one to do so. Likewise, it also has happened due to the fear imposed on the student by the teacher for higher grades.

You go to a party and have a couple of drinks and someone uses the opportunity in one’s favor. You wake up and realize that you have lost something. There are breeds of ‘friends’ who offer sex as a means of forgetting your sorrows. Sometime innocent mind does not understand it and they agree to it. Then there are the lovers who think that love will have a future only when there is sexual intercourse and the other agrees.

If you feel that you did it because you wanted it then it is fine. But if you think that you did not wish it that is when it is a rape. Do not commit this mistake again. It takes away something from you. Dressing up and looking good is one thing and trying to attract every body’s attention is another. Whose attention are you trying to grab anyways? A rapist? I am sure you do not want to do that.

It could also be that you turned a normal person into a rapist. It is difficult to accept this because taking the blame for a mistake or anything is difficult. Here the result is terrible. Control your desire to attract. There are many things one does like wear provocative clothes, smile, stare, speak about sensitive issues etc. You are better off with yourself instead of being with those who are waiting to rip yourself off you. Be natural, be yourself. It is eventually not what you wear it is how you wear which makes a difference. A woman wears what she desires to and feels okay about it. This feeling of her being comfortable and ‘okay’ with herself and her outward appearance transcends into something very neat and casual to the other person. But when you are not comfortable or you are wearing it to create a feeling in the minds of people actually does so. 

I have seldom seen a man wearing something that evokes a feeling of arousal. They sure look attractive but never revealing. This write up is not about what to wear, it is about what not to wear on your mind. Lets your mind be safe and confident of your self. Speak to express yourself instead of speaking to attract the others.

In your opinion, you are looking desirable and in another’s, you are ‘available’. This is why when there are debates about the causes of rape, the point is often raised about girls dressing in skimpily. Those wanting to take advantage will look out for signs to make them feel better. They will believe that they did so because you tried your level best for them. In their opinion, they are not wrong. Why else would you try to look anything other than yourself except for giving them the advantage of having you is what they argue with themselves when the question of whether they should or should not or they are right or wrong arises. 

They will know that you want them to look at you. They will come to you. This satisfies you and tell you that your belief in yourself is true. When you try too hard, some get irritated they abuse you and treat you badly. You start crying foul. Do you want all this?

You always want your favorite movie to have something in common with your own life. Movies have a kind of impact on people. Therefore, they start forcing the drama of the movie in their life. But movies are created by people who have two things in mind. One, to make it look good and two, to make it sell. Hence, you know how far the dramatization is true. What a waste is it when you are not aware that you are innocent? Do not let the high expectations of those around you to blind you.  

Let life be simple. Because you will be sorted as there will be nothing artificial in and around you. You will have a fresh perspective about life’s innumerable issues. You will not seek another person’s advice for solving your problems. You will never be confused and misunderstood. You will never have to lie and hold on to your lies repeatedly. You will understand love, relation and your paths much better. All this when life will be accepted as being simple!

Stop becoming the food for the hungry and definitely stop creating such filthy hunger in the minds of those around. You are good looking and you do not need approval r a certificate to prove it. Once you understand this, you will already feel better and believe in yourself.

Tyr to understand what real friendship is. You will be stronger in friendship and have a strong bond instead of having petty fights or being jealous and envious of others. Welcome yourself to the real world with a new and refined you, the confident you.

You Are A Woman

A preview into a woman’s mind will take you to a roller coaster ride. Because when a woman is angry, she fears being judged as a bad person and speaks what she did not mean to instead what is actually troubling her mind. Yet she makes it a point to have her say.

Closing your eyes only makes you blind temporarily. Others still see you and know what you are doing. Later on, you realize what you have lost in that game. Still you do not want to accept your mistake because you will have to take the burden of what you and those with you have lost. If you accept it and are sorry for it, you will definitely feel better and will be a better person. This also the others will notice provided you do not mind being perceived as a good person.

Most women also do not feel okay with being known for the good that they do. So they say things like, ‘I do not do anything to be rewarded for it. I do what I like to do’. There is nothing wrong with this pattern of behavior until you are aware of what you want to feel and what you want to portray. The moment you are unaware of this, you seem confused to the other. You do not have to be bothered about what the others think. But you would like to argue when your confusion confuses someone else who matters to you and he/ she feels like they do not know you very well.

Women know all of this but they want to be innocent. Because some women also think that innocence bags the best among the rest. But, innocence, not stupidity right? The best trait in a woman is that their self-esteem and self-respect never goes low after reading or listening to their reality. Women are strong in this respect. Most men fear debating, telling the truth, explaining why they have taken a stand that the women do not understand because they think that the woman will not take it well. And why should they not think this way? After all, the women wanted to say something and think something and beyond that being perceived as something else. Women take being mysterious as a compliment.

Somehow, they know that they will be pampered by the opposite sex for being women. This is in their sub conscious. But do you want to be pampered for a while and kept under the dark or do you want to be treated the way you treated yourself when you were most comfortable and also know your family inside out. Knowing your people also builds an unspoken trust. Trust is very hard to build, maintain, and have on each other.

You will still be ‘special’ being yourself. The happiest of people, families, and friends are those who are happy being themselves, who do not play games and who have the simple strength that they get automatically by acceptance in the day-to-day life. It was hard for them to do but they did it. That is what makes them special and not you.

You are better than your friend is but she has much more than you do. You think she is below your league and you can beat her in many things. Yet she has what you crave for. Now you know why. You are not worth something if you act like a princess, you are worth something when you have a stand and you are confident about it. Confusion in anything makes the thing go away. Whatever you feel strongly for, hold on to that instead of what the crowd follows.

You are not praised for your obvious goodness because praise for your goodness is the least return. That may make you fly or so the other thinks. It is time you stop bothering about your image and be yourself which will create an image for you which will take you where you want to be and you will not be misunderstood.

Fat Loss Is Your Gain

There is one thing that when you lose it, you gain something. The title must have helped you guess it right. It is ‘fat’. It is nobody’s business to comment on how much of it you have. However, it is important for you to keep a check on it.

Let me begin with the first stage. You have a self-image. You think of yourself as that image you have in your mind. That is actually how you want to be seen by everybody. The second stage is your heart that becomes the judge and passes the judgment that you need to curb on the unhealthy food to keep the heart running well. You get signals with a jutting tummy, thickening thighs etc.

You do not react to these signals until you get into serious problems. The problem could be that you cannot get up easily after sitting, clothes do not fit as earlier, you are not confident about yourself in front of a thinner person and the worst is when someone comments on you getting fat. As mentioned earlier, it is nobody’s business to keep a check on your body but yours.

Before the heart makes a judgment, you do it. The body does not obey feelings. It shows out what you put in it. So to avoid hurting your feelings, avoid fatty food.

Before You Ignore

It is common to ignore minor issues in your life. Do not ignore them. The supposedly minor issue does not stop and occurs many more times and eventually becomes a big problem. You probably ignore or do not solve the problem because it would cause you no harm. It looks like nothing. However, you definitely will be troubled when it is big or bothersome enough to stop you from doing your work or going ahead.

Some would like to work on an issue only if it requires effort. Therefore, they wait until there is a big issue. This thrills them. It is exciting to be thrilled. You have all the right to be happy the way you want to unless it hurts someone else. Having said this, have you ever considered that if you had worked on the smaller problem earlier what would you be doing after that? You would be working on something else. Right?

Many opportunities knock your door and walk away because you were tied up with something else. How is that? The message is to be sorted in your day-to-day life. The chance of your life is probably waiting for you to take it up. For that, you have to prioritize. Prioritize the issues that deserve your attention. Also, how much you need to do for it. You end up fighting with your neighbor over a comment passed by them. You exhaust yourself thinking about why someone made you look smaller in from of him or her.

Always remember, that you have something that is the key to open a bigger lock. This lock could be opened by anybody but most efficiently by you. You could bring the real feel and the meaning of it like no other. That is precisely why we do not look, feel, act, and react alike. Grab your opportunity when you see it instead of being buried into someone else’s personal problems.

Such a good behavior will make you look, feel and be treated the way you expect. Follow it diligently and be cheerful while you forgive each individual who get into your nerves. There is nothing that individual can change in you or others. It is very liberally mentioned in the BOOK to forgive and forgive. Perhaps you tend to not follow it because it is ‘preached’. What if it was not? What if it was your secret mantra for success? You would follow it then, right? So do it now. This will fill you with substance that others can only fake they have.

Why The Blog?

         Hello All The Amazing Readers,

This is Vishwa. I am a Journalism Graduate. I am not attached with anything around me yet I am not alone. I live for a cause. The purpose of my life is to spread the knowledge I gain. I live for humanity, for spreading the message of Understanding. I love myself. With a view to spread my thoughts and words, I started writing in blog. This blog is my tool.

Everybody can come forward and comment in this blog, Vishwaspeaks. Positive as well as not so positive feedback. There is a wide variety of topics that I will write on. This is a window to the wall of success. I have carved it with intricate design of my thoughts. Read it and experience it to always have solutions whatever the problem is…

Regards,
Vishwa.

“Write From Your Heart”

Right before you start

There is one thing you need,

Writing is an art…

Devoid of caste and creed!

God And Your Work

There is a difference between doing something yourself and asking God to do something for you. How many times have you received what you have God? I guess not many. Some of you might not even have one wish granted by God. Eventually, you have to either do it yourself or leave it and move on.

What looks better? Working hard to get what you want or letting it go because God did not give it to you? Of course, working hard for what you so dearly liked that you wanted God’s help for it. Sadly, some of you have learnt that God will do everything for you that make you leave it to Him without putting your 100% effort and eventually losing it.

Whose fault is it? Sorry to say but it is the fault of the parents to teach their kids to ask God for things like better grades in school to God. Faith and confidence definitely give positive results. However, did you, the parents, let your kid believe in himself or herself so that he or she could use his or her full potential to know that he or she has what takes to achieve what he or she desires?

It is very common for parents to tell their kids to pray for everything in their life. The prayers start with the very basic wants like the permission for a picnic, a gift etc. Here, with no offence meant, the kids learn to leave their responsibilities to God and not try for it themselves. The child takes the first step and unknowingly leaves the rest to be done by God. This also gives them a hang of putting their responsibilities on others as they grow up.

Instead, if from the beginning they are taught to earn everything with their hard work, they will know their potential, will be strong and independent. They anyways make their decisions and do what they want, most of the times. Then why not make them capable of taking wise and suitable decisions that will help them in making themselves stronger emotionally and morally?

A child can be taught about good and bad from religion. This will help them in decision-making. Let us not simply teach them to go ahead and win without giving them an opportunity to know where and how to go, what importance it has in their life and why to win.

You Should Not Exist

There is one thing in this world that should not have been existing, boredom. Boredom eats up your capability and initiatives that could have brought you good results. The first wrong decision you make while approaching a job or activity is to delay the work because you are bored.

You plan so many good things and success for yourself. Your positive attitude and efforts towards achieving it results in the related activity that is given to you. You have time to do it and the skills as well. Yet you wait until you ‘feel like doing it’. Why is that so? Because you are bored. You are getting an excellent opportunity to get what you want and you procrastinate because you are bored. What a waste! What happens after that? You have to finish it in a hurry with lots of detailing not done. You give a halfhearted work, which in return gives you partial results. Do you want this? No! You want all that you dream of, nothing less.

You can have everything you want. Be of good cheers and be optimistic. Never delay you work. When you get something to do, do it promptly. Most success comes with a ‘Stitch in time’. Once you accept this inclination, you welcome other hindrances, which could not be controlled by you. It could become a habit, which leads to other vices. Sometimes you create a barrier for yourself unknowingly. This shuns away all those who come to approach you for some work, which would be helpful for you. Hence be vigilant and do your works at first go. This will surely make life easier with lots of work and innumerable benefits and perks.    

Nothing Stands Alone, Misery Needs Company…

Confidence

Confidence is when your mind holds on to something and you do it with conviction. Confidence is not when you do it with a “let’s try” attitude.

Fear

Do not let fear come easily to you, lest it becomes a way of life. When you control your mind of fear is when confidence establishes its reign.

Control

Control lies in your hands. If you let go of the natural strength in your mind and enjoy being scared, which some indulge into, then fear takes over.

Vulnerability

Constant fear of something that is allowed by you takes root in your mind and attitude thus making you vulnerable. Hence, all the negativities reside in you. The fear could also be for instance of ghosts.

Conclusion

If you give way to confidence, it takes over and establishes its foothold. This makes you stronger, mentally. This strong attitude attracts opportunities and gives you the motivation to persevere and achieve your goals.

While if you make way for fear and inhibition, weakness takes over and repels all the opportunities that come your way through your hard work. This also plants the seed of rebellion in you.

So always, speak strongly of the positive things.

I Am A Joker

I am a joker, I like to entertain.

I make funny faces without any shame.

They are sometimes amused and other times confused.

Wondering, why such a strong girl uses entertainment as a refuge.

I received no applaud rather was misunderstood.

I paid this price for no good.

Gnash and snarl is all they did.

When a genuine smile was expected.

They could have done that or just nothing.

This would have saved me of experiences disappointing.

I was a joker and wanted all to be happy.

Still doing the same thing with tried and tested therapy.

No, I Cannot!

A “no no” attitude will just not work,

For all that happens he/ she will only smirk.

Aiming of high dreams, with a negative attitude,

To be successful you must feel gratitude.

Lean a little, bend a little and also be firm,

You have to have a “yes yes” attitude to live life on your own terms.

As You Sow, So Shall You Reap….

You must have experienced in the past that you wake up and feel like you do not know anything. You do not know what to do, what to think and you feel lost.

This is not taken very positively by a few. There is a rush of feelings. Some feel disappointed. You may be much focused, strong and determined to be successful and happy yet you feel a vague feeling as you wake up.

This happens for a very beautiful reason in your life. If you do not try to kill this feeling or if you do not try to dissect it, you are half way through to success. Just be cool. It is a feeling of strength for all the positive things you have done for yourself and others. Being kind or generous was not propagated for the social reformers; it is for all of us. It helps each one in the right time. You have to be receptive of all the good that come your way. Remember, that this same feeling did not come to another, because they did not persevere for it. It is knocking your door and will do so until a limited time.

Why do some people look wiser than others do? Because they take the good that come to them through the positive deeds done in the past. It would be foolish of one to not embrace it.

All you have to do is smile and be cool with what you are feeling. Continue your work the regular way. Soon you will get accustomed to this feeling and this feeling will fill you with good cheers and will power. Being at the top will not seem like a distant dream, being successful will not seem like the fortune of the lucky ones and being special will not seem like the property of …

This feeling is your share of profit. Accept it. Do not be confused. It is normal. Do not let it go.

Vulnerability

Why do you feel vulnerable at times? You know that you are not weak and you can take what has happened. Yet something hurts you and goes away. You start becoming susceptible to certain things as you start doing things that are not what you think is correct.

Increased helplessness happens when you have guilt in you. You may be aware of someone who has been exposed to tremendous ridicule yet he/ she is smiling and is unscathed by it. Because he/ she has a clear conscience. Having ethics in life is thus desirable.

Vulnerability makes you a victim of sadness, humiliation, feeling threatened, losing interest and much more. Do you want to be vulnerable? I think not. Then stop the doorway to this dangerous self-destructive tool. You can do this by keeping yourself clean. Which means you have to mind your business, follow what is right, listen to your heart, go the extra mile in succeeding and most of all stop doing the things that you think are wrong? For those who do not do this, do it for fun. It soon becomes a habit and you cannot get out of it. May be you like it. You have to choose between this and a stronger self.

Because doing wrong willfully makes you feel like you deserve the wrong that happen to you. So you take all the mishaps and do not feel bad about it. Some also lose face and beauty with this. If you come out of this vicious circle, there is a completely new world waiting for you. Stop feeling that you deserve the bad that come to you.

Pointless Talk

Talking about others, their looks, their work, their deeds,

This is termed as the beginning of planting fruitless seeds.

Nothing changes when one gossips of the one you know,

Others keep working and progress speedily while the gossiper remains slow.

Incessant jabber, generalizing ideas is a waste of time.

Yet many do it, male or female, as it is not a punishable crime.

Those who fear losing something indulge into defaming rumors,

It has gained popularity fast enough like a spreading tumor.

Forget what others do, broaden your mindset and let others do what they want,

Do not tag what others do, as there are things that you may not understand.

A Poem

Writing poems is a great way to de stress,

As you write, your problems begin to seem less.

It may have a rhyme or just a good meaning,

Everyone should read it that is your feeling.

At times, it take efforts otherwise in a jiffy,

However long it takes, it will make you happy.

Whether or not it is read by anyone other than you,

Remember many have gone unnoticed as fame smiles on a few.

I Dream Of A Better World

I dream of a better world where you are happy,
I dream of a simpler world where you are not lost.

Where people think straight and speak direct,
Each others opinion everyone respects.

Too many gadgets to use and play,
Let us go back to nature and make items with clay.

Women trust women and not play around with men,
Men true to their partner and hamper their women.

So much of violence making another resent,
Lets forget the past and have a pleasant present.

Some day it will all end and maybe we all will be just us,
Leaving all the maligning thoughts love my friend will come first.

Men and Women

A man is strong and is smart, his smartness is underlying.
A woman thinks deep, from men they keep but men know that they are lying.

This is no debate about who is stronger, smarter, or better.
This poem has a meaning, which you can decipher.

Women weep and cry and yell till they make their stand clear,
Boy you would rather listen and do something to stop this reaction reappear!

Tricks and tips men keep giving to their chosen and special woman to keep their bond alive,
Keep a watch and support what he is stating instead of being stubborn and seeing your own charm die.

Know what you want and make things clear and wait for the other to speak,
To live life happily, you both need to be clear about what you do and do not need.

Life depends on support, clear, fair and respectful conversation and not on childish, one sided talks,
A smile, a touch, an appreciation is what will keep your relation away from being on the rocks.

Let him express all his love to you while you stay calm and take it.
You will see this love again in the future, if you reciprocate it.

Say that all the attempts your partner made really made you happy.
And keep giving positive and larger than life comments instead of being unhappy.

It is not revenge that happens after a disappointment, it is what you asked and deserved.
You too can get filthy rich; have all the admiration you dreamt of if the above hints you observe.

Live in peace even when choices do not match, the love will continue.
Love survives on love and does not changes with fights is understood and believed by a few.

Just What Is Needed

More so often you take for granted what you know for sure is the best option  for you. When you see your comfort, your happiness in something, you do not pick it. The picking requires a deliberate attempt. You take that choice for granted. You need to make a choice you need to speak up. But you don’t. It is natural. But not healthy. We are born with certain talents. Once we get accustomed to the world, we desire other talents.

First, preserve what you have and then take what you want. Lest you lose what you have and also not have what you wanted. This decision-making comes your way in many and all the stages. You have to make a choice about the seat you want in the car, the marks you want in exams, the message you want to send to a friend or the words you pick while conversing.

How deep does this choice make an impact in your life as a whole? Very deep. It changes the way you look, the way you present yourself and the way you value yourself. The better you value yourself, the better others value you. Is not this of crucial importance? If you take decisions that affect these areas daily, think of the modification that you undergo each time.

Depending on how you exactly listen to yourself during these times, you perform your best or worst in the most crucial phase of your life. The most crucial phase of your life means something to you right? It does. Choose the best option for you each time. Try to affirm and speak positive to yourself in times of crisis or otherwise. When you know what is and what is going to happen is good, accept it formally. That is when you are being faithful and giving to yourself. This is not being selfish. You are being partial to yourself but you deserve it.

If you could think and know what is good, better, and best for you, you would, might as well choose it for you. Then see the growth and result in your life… You would have no more shocks, no more unexpected reactions from others and no more confusion. The more you are true to yourself, the brighter and clearer you see your path ahead.

Through Your Attempts!

Each attempt you make has a definite impact, if not on you then on another.

How else do you think this earth still rotates with people killing each other?

Some days you are happy for unknown reasons yet you enjoy the moment completely.

Continue to be optimistic and the good work, this joy will come to you repeatedly.

If you wish to succeed in your plans, you must work a little more from your side.

Tables will turn with the results you own and your success from others will not hide.

Music

You heard a song and you saw something invisible.

The role of music in your life is invincible.

A hundred attempt to neglect the truth;

But the sound of music would not let you refuse.

However far you run you will be caught,

Find out the reality as to music you resort.

To some it is noise that disturbs them,

While for some, a life without music cannot be dreamt of.

Soft or loud, music is versatile,

When you cry, music will make you smile.

First Thoughts Versus Experience

Often before doing something, you are suggested to follow a different path by your own mind. Some have taken the advice and have gone ahead with it. They might have been successful or have had learnt of a path not to try again.

Why do you not take the advice of your own self? After all, you know your state of mind. Who else has known you more than your own self? There is the fear of going wrong. How many times have you been right? Following the wrong advice hurts you more than following your own self. Here the culprit is someone else. And you get trapped in the blame game. This does not lead to something good.

Listen to your own suggestions. What if your ignore a brilliant idea that cropped in your own mind and follow the weaker option and land up in a mess? Choosing the right alternative after proper evaluation of the possibilities is called wisdom.

A Beautiful Chandelier

A big bright room with a colorful bright chandelier,

A night sky with a smiling moon is how my living room should appear.

Made of well-chiseled crystal and intricate design;

Enchanted my guests would be with its dazzling shine.

Nothing less than a palace is how my home would be,

Once I get it done, you will all see.

Why So Deep?

Why does it become a habit of some to go deeper into all that has gone wrong? You say something, another replies to it. You feel bad and you go home thinking about it. You call someone and tell him or her everything. And it goes on and on. When something good happens to you, you smile and feel good and then forget about it. You may not call your friend to explain each thing. Sometimes we take good experiences for granted and analyze the wrongs way too much.

Do you think that you were happier when you were a kid? I do. Because during childhood one feels only two things, Happiness and Sadness. When you get something, you like, you laugh, and dance and jump with joy. You express it completely. You feel nothing wrong with showing your happiness. When you do not get something you asked, you would get angry, lock yourself in your room, shout at your parents, and cry. Here also you feel no shame in expressing your frustration. These are the reasons why kids can think of doing the things they like and fight until they get it.

Do you wish to dance as no one is watching? Do you not want to sing and not be bothered about your voice? Do you not long to enjoy rain, and everything that you like? It feels wonderful to be yourself. It feels even better to express how you feel. Not necessarily to anyone but to yourself. It gives you all that cannot be expressed in words. Is it too difficult to leave alone the details of what people think and feel by replacing it with momentary anger? It is not.

Research

Have you ever wondered why you are always stunned at the innovation of another? The finding could be regarding anything. It could be about a thought, a person, human life, or a gadget. Leave aside the electronic innovations. That requires special education. Let us talk about something that you and me could do with our mind. Think! That is right. Why do you not spend much time in knowing about things that are of importance to you?

You go to another, may be a friend for help and advice. But you do something else that results into something that you did not expect in your fortune. Because you are capable of knowing what is happening in your life, you can also understand what is going to happen in your life. And you can control it. Hard to digest? It is true. If you could believe and have evidence of man living up to an age of 125 and more, you can certainly believe that a man can shape his own life. You can change the course of your life.

For that, you need to be confident. You will not know, until you think for yourself. This entire process will involve sweet confusions, some mistakes, and a few regrets. But have you not had your set of confusions, mistakes and regrets till now? You will continue to have them. There is no denying this fact.

So to have control over your life like some people you know has, you have to RESEARCH on your complicated yet simple life and all the other things that are of importance to you. Trust me you will find the answers soon. As soon as the very right time. Even if your brain and reasoning does not get you what you expected, you will certainly have it as a benefit for your effort. This effort is silent. Nobody sees or knows it except you.

You are in a mess without knowledge. It is said, “The more knowledge you have, the more pain you have”. And, ”Half information is as good as wrong information” (most of the times)”. Therefore, the conclusion is, you would rather TRY and know everything than chuck the research on why what happened.

Knowing what happened and why, would make you wiser. And being wise feels good. Of course, we all get wiser in the due course of time, when we grow old enough to have no use of it but to impart it to our grand children.

Hatred Hurts…

What happens when you have too many well-wishers? You feel at peace. How does it feel to have too many enemies? What if your behavior has caused many to dislike or hate you? You do not bother! And why should you? You face many problems each day. You cannot go on doing things that please everyone. It is difficult. This feeling also gives you a reason to do as you wish sometimes. If you take it further, you may end up making some major mistakes by hurting many friends deeply.

This makes them hate you deeply. They may not be bothered about your health, well being etc. How does it matter to you? It does. If I tell you to try to be nice with everyone, would you do it? Not unless you know this…

Problems intensify, sickness increases and sadness exceeds with increasing number of people you hurt. It happens because of the thoughts in their minds, which are either created or stirred by you. It reaches your mind and deepens something bad in you. Somewhere down the line, you know it. You may find this idea of being nice as a preaching in religious books. But here is the reason why you should and how it helps you. Try to be nice. Try to maintain a healthy relation with everyone. If that is too much then try to be neutral and be less likely to be misunderstood by another. Why do you think you feel sicker with hostile people around and healthier with friends?

Are You Like Another?

After a point of time, you decide to have your own defense system. You see the outside world or the corporate life and come to know that if you stand amidst your colleagues defenseless, you will probably be taken for a ride each time they have an opportunity. How do you beat that? With your attitude, with your defense system.

Right now, you are reading this post and you probably agree with it. If you do so keep in mind that, others also agree with it. If so many of you agree with it that there are bullies who trouble you, then why do you have your defense system? For the bullies or for yourself? You do not want to live under the fear of being taken for granted, then why do you take others for granted? This is what builds the chain. The vicious chain of being fake. This is where you welcome wickedness in you. This takes you away from yourself and close to a different you who gets tired easily, who gets irritated, frustrated, and defensive easily. Who has no interest left in what he/she really liked.

You are treated in a certain way by those who are called the biggies. In return, you do the same with those below you. Is not this human nature? Does this not come naturally to you? Isn’t it true that you too have that itch to go ahead and be blunt? Yes you do! I will tell you something you all know. You are one person and you have many others around you. You all are different yet end up being the same. This is because of the conditioning that you get in the fake society. Fake because, of pride, money, competition, desires, envy and all the other reasons that make you run in the rat race.

Coming back to the point, when you all have the same fears and experiences, then why not be free? Why not know that when you move out of your homes, you prepare yourself for the same thing. You are not competing with the others, you are shielding yourself from the other. Will it not be wise to open up and behave just the way you are and are comfortable with? When you behave how you do when you are alone, the others will know you better. Some may themselves open up and you could be friends. For instance, your expression, while you are working at home you have a style of gazing at things. You are carefree and do not care about your ‘style’ and how you look at the moment.

Why not behave the same way sans the sham? This bridges the gap, breaks the ice and builds an unspoken trust and understanding with those around. Seems untrue? Try it.

Love, Romeo And Juliet Style

Why do you like what does not belong to you? Moreover, you like what belongs to another. You see the boy friend or girl friend of your friend or even your best friend or a famous celebrity and you long for the same for you. Do you think that is what it looks like? Or do you think you cannot have it? Do you think what you have cannot be like what you want it to be?

Well, that is not true. You can certainly have all that you see and like. You have to be realistic and you have to be free from envy. Envy never stays concealed. It always shows. It shows on your face. It shows when you speak. Accept your shortcomings. Know your limitations. This would mark its beginning. Then you need to concentrate on who and what kind on a person you are. That would make things clearer for you and your loved one.

You would know why you are treated the way you are. You do not have to entertain and please everyone. You have to be yourself and be cool with it. This will build respect and a strong place in the mind of others, for you. This is essential as a foundation to any relationship. You have to be very optimistic when you speak to your loved one. When he or she is sad or is saying something negative, you have to contribute with your positive words even if it looks unrealistic. This is where you can score. This strengthens your relationship further. If the other one cannot think of bigger plans and you agree with it, then be prepared to land up in a poor mess. Hence, the so-so unrealistic positivity and motivation is inevitable.

Third, do not try to teach him or her every now and then. Who likes it? You can certainly make things clearer about your family background and your past. Here the other one has to be patient and accepting. And there cannot be a one sided sharing. Both have to contribute. Whether you speak to much or too little, sharing is needed. Talk about what little or big things that happen throughout the day.

But please do not keep nagging, or complaining, or correcting all the time. You do this when you feel that you are always right, or when you have more than the other has. But there is no place for this stage of ego in a relationship. Speak about you not being able to control your anger towards him or her. Say to yourself that you speak too much or shouted on the other one because you are excited or whatever the reason is. This builds rationality and consideration in the mind of the other. You have a chance to be forgiven once you speak out what you did and why. Correct your loved one when needed. Listen to what he or she says. If you do not agree, let there be the possibility of it being true. Respect the opinion of the other, which is the fourth quality that is needed in a relationship. Not all this will happen overnight. This happens eventually and you will be given multiple chances to prove yourself as a good partner. You are never too late for love. Where there is consideration and maturity, there is also a huge scope for a strong and an “enviable” relationship.

Fifth, when you are gifted, show a smile and appreciate it. Even if it is cheap or is not of your taste. This marks the beginning of the peaceful beginning of gifting. If you cannot be like Juliet, you cannot expect your partner to be like Romeo, and vice versa. Where there is comfort, there is expression. If you do something harsh enough to curb further gestures of love, you will always be complaining and cribbing that you do not have what you want. And others have it.

That what seems all rosy and lovable from the outside, has this strong concrete building in the inside. Like a human body looks tremendous from the outside, but you would not like to have a partner who has no skin, whose heart full of love is beating right before your eyes. You want a packaging. This implies for your conduct too. Think twice before you say, “I cannot do this, this is not me”. You are what you think you are. And in your thoughts you want an ideal relationship. You know what it takes to attain it. You just do not want to accept it. Now is the time to do it.

Do what your heart plans. Know that it does not demand of you to be fake. You can get all that you can think of. Your entire life you behave in a certain pattern. Let that pattern be of an orderly fashion following certain rules and discipline.

I Give Up!

I give up my share of entertainment because I am moved deeply by what I see. As a child, I sacrificed my food to get something I liked. And my diligence yielded good results. Now I give up a bigger part of my life, my entertainment. I wish to see no more hunger! No more poverty! And no more hatred. Because all this leads to tears and sacrifice of innocence. That is not acceptable to me. 

I believe if I take such an action it will surely result into good results. Mere sadness is not enough. I need more. I cannot enjoy my life, complain about minuscule things, and have a good night sleep. Something in me says that I must take a bigger step. I donate stuff, I help those in need, I offer compassion. That is limited to those around me. There is more I am born to do. Let me start this drive as I started this blog. The blog is surely yielding great response. Let my sacrifice also lead to filled stomachs.  

   No! I will not entertain myself. And I will not keep grudges. I will forgive. For it is too hypocritical of me to speak about love and be after people who hate me. Until I see all happy, healthy, and with a full stomach, I will wait. I will wait with a heart filled with hope and good cheers. A heart, body, and mind that is free from hatred, revenge, and pleasure.  

 Let me do it! It will take time for me to be like this, but I will surely do it. It surely will give me relief as I see people happy and healthy. I will consider the purpose of my existence completed, partially. Then I will move on to another responsibility. That is what I consider an ideal life. If I cannot get all that I want, let me give all that I can to someone who has nothing.

It Itches At Comfort

When you were a kid, you liked many things, you did not like a few things and you cried due to some other things. But nothing disturbed you enough to leave aside your fun activities. You would still get along everything and search the ways to have fun. Whatever made you unhappy did so for a while. You never held on to it for longer. Now when such things happen, you feel irritated, frustrated, nervous, traumatized, depressed, revengeful, and so on. You do not even search for the things that made you happy. Instead, you tend to throw that away.

Why do you do that? Only because now you are growing up. Aging is very deceiving. It makes you feel powerful, it makes you laidback, it lets you take your own decisions, and it also makes you throw tantrums on others. It gives you power. You try to follow your perception of adulthood and maturity. While the case should have been different.

Do you not do your work better than you did as a child? Do you not eat faster, dress up faster, write, or read faster than you did when you were small? A new shoe gives you shoe bites. The same pair fit smoothly with time. Because it expands and it takes the shape of your foot. Then why not you too take up the daily chores of life with this mindset that you have learnt it, it could be done better and faster and now you have the time to do extra work as well.

Instead as you grow up you start taking it as ‘boring stuff’. You tend to avoid it. The cycle of life is designed in a way that you learn useful things each day and make life easier for the near future. Not because it is cool but because you are going to need it. Each day you will be expected to do something different and challenging. To do them successfully you will have to manage your day-to-day work and then tackle the new task.

When you talk about “positive attitude”, it implies for all these things as well. If you are facing a problem today and you are not able to tackle it well, it is OK. It happened to you so that you know the nature of the issue. The next time it happens again, you mind will be prepared for it. You would do better than yesterday. The term ‘future’ brings with it responsibility. In this phase, you have to be aware of certain things. For that, you have to be ready to take up life like a champion. What hurts today will hurt more tomorrow.

Get a hang of being at peace with today. That will make you stronger and lovable. You will not realize when it happened. It will build you and prepare you for opportunities that will build your future and make you a successful person.

When Relationships Hurt

One has many hopes from a relationship. Once you understand that there is someone who is yours or that there is someone whom you belong to, you start relying on them. You start expecting and then you keep getting hurt because of them. It could be one single person or many. But all that happens initially, is the same.

Each individual is born with something special in him that keeps him going. You are self-dependent, you stand without any help after you fall and you do not need a person to make you smile! You are capable of being happy in the company of your own self.

Then why do you suddenly turn into a person who is hurt in seconds as something goes wrong with that special someone whom you trust? The one you counted on. Because you stop letting go! Let go of the offensive things that the other person does. And no, this “let go” attitude towards your relationships is not going to ruin anything. And you are not being ignorant by doing this. And yes it will be difficult initially to let go which is kind of similar to forgiving the one.

But what would you choose, losing your loved ones over recurrent fights or losing your charm by being a cribbing and short tempered person? Of course, you would choose to have your loved ones, to have yourself intact and to be happy in the longer run. And when the other one has a perpetual flair of hurting you, stop believing in him or her for that particular issue. He or she is certainly not reliable when it comes to “that” particular thing. At least he or she is loving otherwise?

With In-Law

Why does being with the in-laws seem such a task for most of you? After you meet them, there could be either of the two possibilities. One, you will never gel with them. Two, you have found yourself a set of new parents.

If the latter is your reality, then you are one lucky girl or boy. But if you seem to fall in the first category, then you may need some counseling. What do you assume when you plan to see your in-laws? That you may see two old people who would ask too many questions and they would embarrass you?

Well, the assumptions are many but the solution is one. That is, think of them as your own parents. It feels great if you learn to do that. At least try. Listen to your spouse when he/ she shares about his/ her childhood incidents and what his/ her parents are like.

There is nothing like it if they love you. Listen to the in-laws’s endless stories and engage yourself into their chores. You can also share your stories. Protect them when they are insecure. If there is something that you do not like, say it to your spouse in private. Let there be no communication gap. Sometimes you may argue, but it is okay. This way you can also win your spouse all over again. The in-laws turn out to be great support system. They need to be sure that you will fit into their lifestyle. However it may be, once you have done this, you are secure and carefree.

You were very much yourself at your own home, so will you be at your in-laws’. Just give it the time and effort.

The Spell Of Silence!

The spell that silence contains has a spell binding impact;

Nothing lays loose, as its language stays intact!

Sometimes when you speak, you may not be heard;

But an act of the body will create a deep stir.

You tried conveying your thoughts, but were never successful;

You end up making mistakes that you are now regretful.

Being desperate leads to desperate actions;

You may feel neglected witnessing the others reaction!

So the coolest way to convey your message is my friend;

Gesticulate more and break the talkative trend.

It sounds unrealistic but silence speaks your thoughts;

Words may be forgotten but your expressions are always caught!

When You Work & Another Reaps The Benefit

How many times have you seen yourself work really hard to get something but you did not get it? What is worse? Someone else gets it. While that person has just not worked for it. In your opinion, he/ she does not even deserves it.

Why do you think someone walks away with what you want? Why does the other one, being so undeserving, get it? Because he actually deserved to get what he did! Each one of us keeps striving to have something or the other. You may or may not get it immediately, but you get it sometime later. And you get better than what you have striven for.

By endeavoring for a particular thing, you create a reserve for yourself. And you reap its benefit in the correct time and apt place. So you could actually enjoy it in the true sense! Why do you think you receive gifts and perks, now and then, while you do not expect them? And it turns out even better than what you expected. It is left you how you keep it. Respect what you have, lest you lose something of ignorance!

Be A Poet!

Think of a poem, think of a line;

Think of something that creates a great rhyme…

Have a glass of water or juice of lime;

Make all you want, in your sweet time…

Write on a book or on a toy;

Write on your special one whether a girl or a boy.

Great work is created with thoughts not in a jiffy;

Write for an incentive, not just a toffee.

Inspirations are many, remember either one;

Jot down all incidents when you had fun!

Make it sound musical like the sound of a clarinet.

Two, four, six, or eight lines, containing 14 lines will make it a sonnet!

A line or many let it have something about you,

Put forward your dreams, you never know it may come true!

The Opposite Ones..

Being born as a boy or a girl has its own pros and cons. Let me tell you about certain things that will happen and other things that will just not happen.

Whatever you are born as, you have this inborn feeling to attract the other sex. Some are successful in doing it and some are not. Yet it brings a thrill to each one of us. Then there are movies that tell us what to do and how. And we all get used to this culture. There is nothing wrong about it.

What is wrong is, you start believing in what you watch, hear and assume. And when you go about implementing those ideas, you either get more attention than expected or may fall flat on your face. This hampers your growth. You may be a fun and understanding individual but you lose your individuality trying to be someone’s king or queen. And how weird is it to spend your entire colorful life in dressing up the way people want, talking the way you would sound good to the other, behave in a certain manner you are not!

You can surely have the other sex love and admire you with your work, your true self and your own capacity. Try believing in your little self. Faith will not let yourself value remain low, faith will strengthen you. And strength is the first thing you must have. After achieving the self worth you lacked, the aura will spread around and you will sure be loved. And you never know, when you may get the one who loves you, not the one you portrayed yourself to be!

When Ideas Clash…

Since your childhood, you have seen conflicting ideas from the same region but different people. Like when one friend asked you to get chocolates and other pastries. Your mom asked you to be forthright and dad asked you to be calm, or may be the other way round.

If you have sailed safe out of this conflict, there is more to go. When you go to school, two different teachers will give two different answers for the same question. What can you understand from this?

Either they both are right or one of them is wrong. You may follow what they say or choose to go your way. You do not want to be caught doing that. For that, you can be yourself and understand that both have been through this phase and have tackled it in the suggested way or have failed to do it themselves. So they expect you to be safe.

Discuss both the options with both the ones and see what you get. And be sure to respect both the views. But, do what suits you the best. Like three different artists cannot create the same thing. Each one work as per their lifestyles so could you reason for yourself and be ready to stumble, fall, raise and learn. That is why we all are different from brutes who cannot reason…

A Little Bit Of Understanding?

Are you the poor scapegoat or the harasser? I mean, when in school, college, office, home or anywhere under the sun… How do your people take you?

When you need help, do you get it or you rather give it? Sometimes you have to give to receive! And your work is done by, no one knows who? Nevertheless, it is done. Coming back to the question, do your colleagues wait for you when you need them or do they rather take your time?

If you have someone whom you can count on in times of need, you have got an understanding friend. And for the one who does not believe in being there when your friend needs you, you have got to be a tad bit u-n-d-e-r-s-t-a-n-d-i-n-g!

How hard is it? Making that extra effort will not trouble you! It will help your friend and win you, if nothing else, then at least a genuine smile. Do you realize how such an act builds your character? It always gives you something in return. If not today, then definitely tomorrow. Your act demands it. You have already worked towards being benefited by it.

Try it. Show a little kindness. It may not work initially, but it will take off really well and land beyond the ground you expected! Like for instance; why do you think, the biggest nerds take away the good partners? Cause of their virtues…

When You Are Loved Or Not…

Your friends treat you in a particular way. They are either too nice or too bad or may be just ignorant about you. When they are the way you expected, then it is fine. But when they are different than how you want them to be, that is when you do not relate to them or sometimes get frustrated.

Have you ever given it a thought as to why you are not received the way you expected? Well, it is because of your home. You take the comments you get from your loved ones and continue the reaction you gave to them. Wherever you go, those words go with you. You may be the kindest of person but you are not taken as a kind person.

How can you stop that unfair thing to continue? You can stop being receptive of degrading and untrue statements made by your people. You can demand for respect or plainly ignore what they say.

This way you remain unscathed by what you hear and save your face. Wherever you go, your self goes with you. Not the self created by those who never trust you. Not the self created by those who consider you good for nothing. You remain who you think you are. So listen to what is for you, and do away with what is not for you to keep. Keep Smiling!

Friends, I Love You

 Friends is classy,

Friends is the best..

With Friends, I have learnt,

To face all the life’s tests…

Phoebe is cute,

Phoebe is wise

With her weird style,

She got everyone enticed…

                                          Rachel is stunning

Rachel spells true beauty,

Without her Friends,

Would seem all empty…         

Monika is smart

Monika is strong.

Everything spic and span,

From kitchen to lawn..

 Joey is charming

And very appealing,

When he meets a girl,

He says, How you doin??

Chandler is so much fun

And so understanding.

From you I learnt to be friendly

And the key to bonding…

Ross is handsome,

And so caring.

He made me laugh,

With his hilarious style of luring…

Comments :)

When I reach home, the first thing that comes to my mind is my blog. I look forward to check the comments I get, on which article and from whom?

I started writing this blog, “Vishwaspeaks” without any expectations. Not expecting that I will have any readers for it. Yet I continued writing. Writing because I have many thoughts. I decided as a child that I want to learn everything possible and then implement what I have learnt.

I wanted to make a change in the society. I still do. Therefore, I started observing everyone and rationalizing their behavior. Now, at the age of 26, I think I know enough to share. This I can say based on the increasing readers I have, of my blog.

Now I am left with just one thing to say that whenever I am low and need something to cheer me up, I sign in to my blog, read the various  comments I get and then approve them.

I almost forgot about my blog until the day I finally signed in after a long time. That was when I found out the overflowing comments on my blog.

So I make it a point to visit it and write something new. Each of them must have something, JUST FOR YOU! I would appreciate if the readers provide their name in the name section when they write a comment and email address for me to reply on.

Stick To Your Innocent Plans…

As babies, did you ever thirst for the touch of your mother, a hug from your father or an appreciation from your sibling? If you got enough of it, you are really lucky. However, for those who have not, there thirst continues…

Moreover, there are others who have everything in life but they do not know what to do. To begin with, you can visit orphans. All you could do is ‘Listen’! They do not have anyone but they have a lot to share.

For those who have not had enough of the touch of your family, can also go with the above ones. And make sure that you never leave someone without your precious love through the sense of touch. After a not so loving childhood, a child starts planning about how he/ she would shape his/ her own future. And probably, their kid’s future as well. But do you? After you grew up, did you follow what you planned or did it fade away? You may think that those were childhood days and the decisions were childish.

Childhood never ends. We are all the same always. What changes is our perception of the society and our self-image and expectations from those around us. What do you think will be the better option to go with? The childhood ways or the matured ways, which are influenced by the bogus society? Our childhood ways and decisions are the best ones. Which are true to us and has our heart into it. It is up to you who you want to please. It is the people around you, who are here today and gone tomorrow or yourself, which is yours to keep…

People In Your Life!

When we move a step forward in life, we see other people. Different people. They seem like they will be our good friends. This happens when one goes to college from school, to work from college…

But they may or may not become our best friends. If you get along then it is fine, if you do not, then there is a small problem. What is worse is that they may start hampering your growth. What kind of a growth am I talking about?

The growth defines who you are, what you do, and what you planned to do. Is not this important for you? Yes, it is! You may let go a tiff, a misunderstanding, a word uttered by your pal or senior. But will you be able to erase the impact it had on your personality?

To be safe, you have to speak up. There is no point in being silent. There is no point in mincing your words. What most will happen if you say a “same to you” to the one who calls you an “idiot”? There is nothing wrong in it. You do not lose them nor do you lose something precious in you. You are you and you will retain yourself. Be outspoken. Be true to yourself!

To know…

To know a person,

Listen to a few of their conversations.

To know a person,

Speak less and pay more attention!

To know a person,

Wait until he/ she stays calm.

Because to know a person,

There has to be silence to create an alarm…

I Love When I Am Happy!

I love all when I am happy;

I dislike all when am sad!

Please don’t be judgmental,

Cause sometimes I can be mad!

What say?

You do not need no sadness,

As a reason to cry!

Life is so overwhelming;

That we give up, I don’t know why?

I am happy under the sun,

No need for a reason.

But grown ups like those around,

Need a reason to be happy and sound!

Well what can I say?

To live life there are many ways,

I am a kid and I am happy,

My sadness just goes away.

When It Is Time….

Since birth, we start desiring for things we like. And this desire cycle continues forever. Then there are those special times when we want something really bad and we start making efforts to get them. But we seldom get what we ask! Instead we get something else, either better or worse. Our mind decides it.

And there are times when you get what you wanted and somewhere you knew that you would get it. Why are there times where you know whether you would get it or not. It is because its time. Like it is said that there is a right time for everything. And you get and know everything in the right time?

When you desire for something before time or after the right time, you do not quite get it. Some are too enthusiastic and some too laid back. Why not wait for the right time and then strive? Of course, we all have the capacity to know when we should try and when to stop. It is just that we are too tempted.

So if you really want to live your life to the fullest or you want to get what you want, work when it is required of you. Before it is too late. Or wait till it is the right time. Our minds are designed in such a way, that we can derive truth in due course of time or over experience. Then your mind starts telling you when to work, what to do, what not to do and what impact our act will have on the other.

Tired Or Torn?

Do you get tired when you come back from office? Do you feel torn after coming back from college? Or any other place? When you know you have the energy and happiness to be active, you return to the people you love with a blank face. You cannot keep up with their expectations. You do not even do what you yourself loved to do.

You are torn! You were not tired. This leads to frustration, sorrow, and regret! Many end up ruining a perfectly calm and loving relationship. What really happens in college or in an official setup?

There are those smart ones in your office, school, or college who pass smart and piercing comments and tag it as a “joke”. You feel hurt and do not reply. Because you are stunned and do not know what to do. This hurts and harms your self-respect somewhere deep within and you get lost.

It is said that the most difficult of situations have the simplest of solutions. The solution to the above-mentioned problem is- stop curbing your thoughts. Speak up. No, the other person will not repel back. You just have to comment just as severe as you got from them. Like, when someone calls you a moron, you can tell him/ her, same to you. And smile. Those who crack jokes also must take jokes. Otherwise, they are just bullying you. Then you need to be clear- “I do not come here for your comments”.

If he/ she takes your reply and remains cool, you can continue the verbal drama and it will turn out in your favor. You will have found yourself a friend!

Gray-Black-Or-White..

What if people were of three colors according to their Karma? If black was the person with maximum wrongs, gray with a mixed background and white being the holy sort. And we were given a chance to change our color to a gray, black or white. The most prominent and admired one would be the one who was black.

Because white changed to bad, gray got its colors merged and black had a heavy contrast. Contrast looks good. Doesn’t it? May be that is why we tend to fall for those who do one good to us after many betrayals. And the white get ignored and taken for granted, in spite of loving us.

One would never notice the gray ones, who have never taken a risk and never lived their life to the fullest. They lost their views and stand when a stronger one arose.

It is up to you, who and what you want to be.

Generosity Needs Planning!

There is a kind side to each one of us. Moreover, we tend to exercise it in our sweet time. Like giving to a beggar, donating old clothes, books, and toys. If not these then a chat with a lonely one. Some of us even have plans of extending our helpful hands a little further by making a big change in the lives of the other. Please read this before implementing your plans. If you have started already, still give this post a glance.

Know that you are giving to people who are sad and will be happy soon after you make a difference. They may thank you. You do it to another and then the chain continues. What you get in return is the strength that the world knows as “Moral Strength”. This strength makes you happy, wise, and ready with solutions before problems knock your door. These are the gifts of helping someone. And those who do it without having a desire to get anything in return will surely have more of the strength.

For those who are already through with a lot of these activities reach a stage where they start feeling as they are the lamp that is burning and those who have taken the light are happy. You start wanting more. When you go out you want to be recognized and treated differently. Some get it and some do not.

If you do not feel rebellious, you are truly strong. If you do, then always remember, all those you have helped in big or small ways will benefit from your goodness. Even if they forget you, they will never forget the act that someone helped them someday. You helped them have hopes. That someone who has a little more than them will come to help.

A Common Beginning An Uncommon Ending

We all make plans as kids. Then we have our own unrealistic ideas. All those plans come to a standstill when the castle built on sand comes down. As someone poured water on it. What you should remember is to keep believing in your plans. Just modify them, delete the fancy, add the realistic directions, and go for it.

Nothing works better than an idea from an innocent mind. There are times when you will attain what you want. What after that? You may even be praised for your work. There are some who are carried away and do not even realize. Their aim changes, style of work changes and hence they themselves also change.

What is important is whether you happy with this change. If you are then it is well and good, if you are not then do not settle down with it saying, “Something better is waiting for you”. Whatever you really want and are your plan for your life, stick to it. Do not accept what life has left you with. Work. Work for more and continue until you achieve it. This would mark you having lived up to your own expectations.

Now you can face yourself, feel good, do all you want without bothering what others will feel or say. Because you will have tact enough to act well and the tone of voice smooth enough to please all. After all, we like to be in harmony with those around us, in the end!

Sing For You Are Alive!

A child cries soon after being born

While we all sing with joy,

To see each dusk and dawn with them,

Whether it is a girl or a boy..

Know The Secret!

Have you ever wondered how you would have reacted to what you go through now if it had happened ten years back? I believe you would have done just the same things. Why? I will tell you why…

All that you have, and go through are phases of our life. You would be the same if you were to join school after college. I mean wearing uniform, carrying a tiffin box, a water bottle, compulsory rules to follow, classes to attend. Because we remain the same at the age of 20, 45 or 80. We never change!

Have you ever noticed those who live in a certain way in school, college, or work? How do they behave? Like kids. They like to steal and eat from the kitchen, they like to have a lot of attention, they think they speak a lot of sense and everybody must listen to them. Who else thinks like this???? Ummmm Kids!

This proves that all the different things that you do throughout your set of highs and lows are actually a trick of the trade. Even kids do that if given a chance to play our role. It is just that they do not have the academic qualifications that you have or are having now.

All the areas of life that you fear to face should be dealt with courage. There is no need to worry. Nothing is going to steal your thunder, leave you unnoticed, or take any bit of yourself away from you.

Hit the floor, do your dance. The dance of freedom from shame, from the thought of somebody watching you, the dance of being yourself and never to be embarrassed to be answerable about it..

No pain is to haunt you forever. It is temporary and is going to leave you. Just give the bad experiences a chance to go. Consider bad experiences as a phase of life that we all are destined to go through. Even Sylvester Stallone went through it or Gandhiji or Neel Armstrong. It just helps us to shed away all the extra embellishment we carry.

A bad phase may come in the face of a person, an incident, a day, an accident or someone against you. They all come with an expiry date and will have to go. This will make it easier for you to deal and forget them and enjoy the rest of your lives. You will also be stronger. Sometimes the negative phase may not seem negative if you have enough understanding and strength of Happiness….

Be Yourself!!

Never lower your self-image based on your age. No one is more happy or blessed in a certain age. You are born happy. You like to play. Playing is fun. However, as soon as you start realizing about our surroundings, you start feeling conscious and curb your enthusiasm. Without realizing that you are in fact going far away from what you are made up of. You tend to lose yourself.

Then comes a day when you find a change in your reaction to which you reacted differently earlier. That was more fun. Instead of getting back yourself, you go farther away. Being you is the core of happiness. As it is said “Happiness comes from within not from outside”. You can try it for yourself. Let me also clear that it is also not difficult to get yourself back.

See the photos of the time when you were a kid. On the other hand, the times you were happy, the times that you want to come back to. You are not going back but the time is coming to you. Remember the days when you were happy with yourself.

You will soon have a smile on your face, which will make you feel as happy as you were earlier, and with your maturity intact. No one can point a finger at you saying you are immature. If one does, empathize. Empathize for him for being so far away from himself that a happy man is not acceptable to him.

Enjoy!!

Allocation Of Space In Your Memory

Why do you often recollect past sorrows and cry as if it just happened? Because you have not removed it from your memory. Moreover, those who think it is karma and you must go through pain, “Come over it”. You are not designed to allocate space for pain in your memory.

You are not bad. Nobody is bad. Not even the ones who stole our thunder in your best days are bad. Something in their mind keeps telling them that they should do it. Therefore, they listen to it. And you get hurt.

Why not just let it go? I mean you have had it while it was going on in our precious life and after it is gone, you have given it the space you should have kept for pleasant things like your achievements or may be for nothing.

Think about it. You can actually laugh until someone calls you crazy on the things that made you lose face. So next time something haunts you, just conceal your brain with the cover of your smartness and see the happy demise of painful feelings…

A Dream Of A Free Life!

I dream of  a day free from all maligning thoughts. All the thoughts and deeds those are instrumental in decaying our spirit. Like greed, the race you become a part of or an annoying neighbor, all those who wants you to lose your face.

You are made with a view to live your life, dream about unachievable goals and experience the joy while you achieve them. And to give and gain confidence by the virtue of giving freely.

Have you ever wondered why you need to be free? So that you do not have any regrets when you die. That when death calls you, you give up your life and say, “I have had all that was for me”. To have is also to make it available for another to have. Moreover, nothing is a property of the rich or those who have all the gifts of nature. Like two hands, one head, two feet, eyes or even a beautiful face.

Nothing is given extra to the above-mentioned ones. Moreover, those with anything lesser are not deprived of it. Let us all believe that no one is our enemy unless you think they are.  You can find solace in the smile of a child. Be the child…

Wounds Of The Body, Not Of The Mind

Have you ever noticed how less bothered small kids are of wounds, falls, and bruises? Nothing stops them from doing what they like doing the most- Play. They never stop and they follow what we say that we do,” The show must go on!” They get the spirit to play as energetically, forget as quickly as possible, and come back to their normal fun self only because they do not bother their worries.

They let go and do not pay attention to what comes to them that they were not waiting for! This if the grownups inculcate in themselves then they can easily fight all the illnesses, fears, pressures, phobias etc.

Because it is you who delay the healing of your wounds. Hence just stop bothering your worries and your worries will stop bothering you. Now how will they be solved if we do not bother about it? When you face any problem, your brain registers it, understands, and saves it. And before it may cause you any further problem, your brain automatically sends solutions for the same.

You need to recognize the strength your mind has. That this simple solution, was so simply received free in your mind. And before you know, you already are trying it!!

A Wrong Could Be Stopped By You

We go through enormous incidents in our day-to-day life. How many of them tell a story of you being treated fairly? When you were not misunderstood? You spoke the truth but nobody bothered!

There are many who succumb to the pain and embarrassment but there are the few who tried but eventually took a back seat. I guess now everyone has the platform to speak up. Like how a non-celebrity like me is being read about by one and all.

All those who have issues and want to speak up about them, it is time you do it. We have the tool of the World Wide Web. WHY DO YOU THINK WE HAVE FREE ACCESS TO INTERNET UNLIKE FEW OTHER COUNTRIES? We have all the sites available. All we have to do is open Google, type the problem in a word or two and scroll down the option to find the one you want and voice your suppressed views.

Curbing your views is curbing your growth and visibility that you planned for yourself. Give it a shot. If you have an opinion about your mobile service provider, I say open their website, go to contact us and write about it. And see if you get a response or no. I bet you would. There are those who go through enormous pain around you perhaps in office. Speak about it, show them the direction. How would you help if you yourself have not tried it? What could go wrong?

There are government websites who are willing to take initiatives just on an email. Send it. You do not have to be James Bond to be able to carry it off. You have to be yourself. Just walk along as you would at home.

Do not hesitate to warn them on the email. You are so far away, they can’t even see you.  Last word for your help, do not be very formal, just be yourself. And see the support.

Easy Way Out

The easiest possible way to escape and conquer difficult situations is to pick one of all those suggestions that your mind makes. The suggestions could either come then and there or may be later. However, it will always come before the situation is dealt with. If it comes later or if it so happened that you ignored the suggestion and faced problems, you will at least gain experience. Therefore, you will not do it again and suggest another person, as I am doing…

 Our mind is always registering what we go through throughout the day. The mind is in the best place and position to suggest you with the best possible way out of business problems, college tests or any question you need an answer to.

 You do not already practice this because you fear that you may lag behind by making a wrong move or a wrong decision. You tend to turn to something more worldly. Nevertheless, the most successful person has always been the one who listened to his own voice. For those who already do it is experiencing the good stress free life.

 Now how do you know which suggestion is the best one? You can know that with the help of your own mind again. When it can give suggestions it can also hint on which one would set you free from any further delay in sorting out the issue.

 You do not have to do much; it is the easiest possible way to solve your problems. Get a hang of it!

Being Fake!

From where have you learnt to be fake? Why do you look for your answers in a fake environment? Why most of your work is done being fake with a fake attitude? Read along to know why.

Those around you teach being fake. Everyone seems to be so polished. Everyone is on his or her way to the top. Therefore, you think lets fake it and be something in front of them. However, is this really the way?

It may be difficult initially to not pretend but it is possible to accomplish it over a period. Fake it if you do not have it, was famous one time. It could have been used in your favor. Like in front of your teachers, neighbors or in laws…  Why? So that you learn. To learn to be responsible before them who you are not related to. Or are going to stick to for a longer time.

Anything good, a statement, an advice, an experience teaches you something. You tend to play with it. Moreover, its application at the right place is misplaced. You do not live in a society to go haywire. You do so with a view to learn how to experience and enrich yourself. Moreover, all that learnt has to be out at the right place.

Some ideas that you come across may clash and may be contradictory to each other. It is left to you and your mind and reasoning to apply your lessons where it could be positively applied.

After learning to sticking with your own beliefs and holding on to your stand, keep safe distance from all and always be ready with complete work. Try not to be lazy and be punctual. You never know, before you realize, you are sending vibes to the others to be like you. Moreover, they accept it.

How To Create Beauty?

Let us rehabilitate your mind. Because this is the key to open the doors of good looks and luck for you. Let me prove it! You are assigned a task and you know you are answerable for it. You do not do it. Alternatively, you do it with half the interest, delivering a not so impressive project. In addition, you know it!

What happens when you are asked to speak about it? If you are lucky, you may get extra perks for the not so impressive work. However, mostly, you lose face. It is not restricted to a work visible to others. There are other things that no one knows, that you do regularly. You know how you did it!

Let me take you to another set of people present among us. We like them secretly. They are all that you want yourself to be. They have what you want for yourself. Everything with you and them is the same except the ‘want’ difference. Why?

Because they do what they do, responsibly. Except for sometimes when they feel lazy and want to let go. Like we all do sometimes. Now how does this relate to good looks? The lesser you lose face the more you are confident to face the consequences. This gives you a hang of being yourself. Hence, you do not to try to be someone else.

A man, who is active and able enough to face the questions raised on him for his own doings, always has a face people love. No matter how he really looks. Just look around you. Those you may like or envy are also those who are somehow good at their work. Now aren’t they?

Hence, you also need to be responsible, willing, and strong. Try it.

The Deal With Good People!

What makes positive thinking the talk of the town? For some it is the way of life. Those who follow it seem so happy and different. It is the ‘in thing’. However, for those who still are not very convinced about it, this write up may ring some bells.

When they say, forgive and forget, what is the benefit of following it? I mean, will it stop the back biters from planning wicked against you or will you become protected from bad intentions? What is the origin of such thoughts? Of course, these have come from religious books and people who teach and preach.

Nevertheless, there is good news for all in this. It is that positive thoughts give you space and relaxes you enough to think. When you are ready to think and plan with a positive attitude, you come up with the simplest of ideas and believe that it is going to work. Moreover, the best part is even if it does not, you are least likely to lose your basic nature.

With positive thinking, your innermost being remains calm in a mess because you feed it with what it longs for. And believe it when someone says that you are good. Your soul rejoices on a positive thought, which comes after a bad day.

Lets Change Everyday!

Why do you eat every day? Why do you drink, sleep, and do the basic things every day? Because you need them. We will die if we have no food, water, air and so on. The main question is, if you do all these things to survive, why do you not work as diligently for your relationships?

Your relationships also need certain basic things. Then you complain that your mom does not understand you, your father in law is so boring, your son does not understand everything or that your friends do not really know you… Don’t you think you could work more on it than you already do? As sternly as you do to grab your favorite food?

An absolutely fun and loving relationship can go demanding. It will demand of you to be on your toes. This avoids you going to a friend for solutions of problems. Just because everything is fine today, does not mean that you can let go an error you made. Someone has rightly said, “There is nothing called a free lunch”.

Let us sum it up. There is nothing kept ready for you for the next day. Today’s efforts are only for today. Tomorrow could not be taken care of beforehand. The next day is going to see its share of dirt in spite of today’s cleaning. However, today’s extra mile will definitely make things easier for tomorrow.

Do Away With Your Frustations

You need to remove all the anger, wrath, disgust you felt for someone when you were hurt by him or her. Because the continuous thoughts of anger create, layers and layers of cover that stops you from thinking your mind.

Just remember someone you thought was not sane. Who would react to situations so bad that you thought that you would tackle that problem in a jiffy. Why do they behave that way? They were not born like that. Their mindset was as normal as yours was but they started storing their reactions and repeating them without thinking. And the problem with this change is you don’t even know that you have changed. Nor do you want anyone to tell you that it is your fault.

The next time you have something troubling you, get your frustrations out by shouting when you are alone, or go for a long walk, or speak it out to a friend or write a blog or abuse him in your head. However, you would do this only to get it out of your system not to get a hang of being angry.

Anger seems fun initially. You are at power. However, keep it to its limits. Excessive spicy food creates health problems. You may never know that you are becoming like that person you thought was insane.

The Tool Anger Is!

Have you ever wondered why anger exists? It creates so many problems as fights, break ups, heart diseases… Then why was anger ever created? The purpose of anger is only one, Fire.

Anger is supposed to create vengeance. Not the negative one that forces one to wrong another, the vengeance of doing something. As a child I wondered why did crime come into existence? Why are we not sensible enough to avoid wrong and live peacefully. After all, we all are going to die. The weapon, the strength that anger is, was made only for one purpose; whenever we one falls, he/ she should have the strength to stand, not to shy away. To protect you and your family from danger and to give you the sense that goodness has its own limits and now you must be a little strict.

But this tool is used and abused in every possible way in the form of fights while traveling, abusing those younger to you, bringing another to lose and yet covering your mistakes. All this does just the opposite for your personality. What you do is who you are! No matter with what we conceal it like clothes, make up or any other disguise. Everyone then knows that it is an outward semblance that actually misinterprets your true nature.

There are many in the big bad world who you expect would support and help you. Sometimes the same people trample your expectations, plans, and innocence. Anger could be converted to the fire that would push you to get what you really want and not be wasted in backbiting, crying or taking revenge.

Always spend your day for yourself or those who care for you because a moment spent in revenge is a moment not spent well!

How Much Do You Feel Yourself?

We all know who we are. But do you feel yourself? There are some who are born without a gender. And the rest are either male or female. You do not really value yourself. Like many girls and women do not do anything to feel feminine. All they work for is to look good with nice clothes, tone of speech, gesture, makeup etc. The boys and the men pay more attention again, to clothes, gadgets, sports etc.

Your only aim becomes to look good in front of other people. At your work place, among friends and at home. But do you feel feminine being a woman, or masculine being a man, truly speaking? No! Feeling yourself is the gateway to true beauty. Try doing this. There is no need for any instructions on how to go about feeling yourself. It is simple, Know it, Consider it and Remember it. And see if life makes easy things look easier or not.

Everyone Changes Yet Nothing Does…

We are all born with our own prejudices. As small kids, you would believe if your friend told you that he had a talking dog or that she was born with a special gift. This belief only tells that we have a mechanism to forget the past and come over it after knowing it is not the truth.

Any cognitive content held as true or a vague idea in which some confidence is placed could easily take root in our senses. Why not utilize this for your benefit? Much has been said about ways of getting over smoking, drinking, excessive splurging and many more. However, very few have been successful with their attempts.

The message is clear! As the saying goes, “Where there is a will, there is a way”. You all can let your fertile mind and reasoning to detect for itself what you should and should not indulge into.

Tell Your Age

It is not mandatory to keep advertising your age. Nor is it necessary to hide it. However, the idea is not to cling to something called AGE. Because we never are to be described by a number. Is anyone of you of a differing idea?? I guess no. This concept could be further detailed upon in the following way. Different people have their own experience and things to remember. Are you not composed of your deeds? Are you not defined by your idea of yourself?

The more you keep saying your age, the more you tend to behave similar to those belonging to that age. One may be as young and energetic as a fresh plant but he/ she may tend to bend with age. This bend is never an outcome of the days he/ she has spent.

Once you start believing in your account of life and interpreting it in the form of your life, that is your perfect age! Some experience a lifetime in a second and some finish their entire live and recount nothing as worthwhile.

Living your age in the form of a number is not being true to yourself but living on the experiences, good or bad tell more about you. Otherwise why would someone look 30 at 45 or 40 at 35??

Lets Get Working!!

Let us all get working. We have slept enough. I have risen to the needs of those falling prey to the frustrated mind. Let us all fight against injustice wherever we are. There is no need for a formal body to fight for us. How many times have we all come up together for justice and found it. I think we all are equipped with the fiercest weapon, the Mind! Do not resort to violence, retort to it. It does not take a mountain to fight back it only requires a mole.

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Giving In The Form Of Taking!!

Here is a thought! Whenever you have something new that bothers you, say a person who is irritating, a headache or that you are not feeling well. Always remember, this could be your contribution to help ease the bigger pain your special someone is going through. This is not true but it sure builds your moral if you are looking forward to doing it. What better than having conquered your pains in spite of being inflicted by them?

After all, we all must go through our share of screening. You know. You may come out of it not complaining and regretting. Do you have a need for another reason to believe this?

Passion!

What is Passion? You have heard the biggies and you yourself use the word. But, how many of you have a real passion? Why do you need something to be passionate about? You are born, you study, and you work, earn and so on…

Why then a passion? A passion keeps one going. How? I will tell you. Aren’t there many out there wanting and plotting your fall? They implement it on you and you are hurt. Just the thought of having someone speaking ill about you hurts.

If you are passionate about say a book, an actor, a childhood fantasy or your future goals, you remain untouched by those trying to hurt or trouble you. You can distinguish from your own reasoning on what is your passion. How? Well, your commitments that have stood through the test of time are your real passions. It could be just a thought, may be a fiction, not even true. But you must stick to it. Because that is the wind beneath your wings.

Never curb it. No. Never! No one, who would laugh at it, needs to know about it. Because these are, the blocks that build ones character. Today what looks like a fantasy will become a reality. Nevertheless, you must trust it and hold on to it. You keep your passion going and your passion being a living entity, will keep you going, and how!

As The Day Begins…

It takes pain and courage for our “Mother Nature” to give birth to the sun, through her womb every single day. Every day a “Son” is born. It burns throughout the day for we humans and all the living organisms. Because of this we see the day, feel the nature, breath fresh air, open our minds and lives for a new beginning each day. It gives us a chance to come over our pains, confusions, regrets, and all our negative feelings.

Do you wonder what it does to you? Why must it take so long for you to understand the reason for the existence of what exists? Is it because you are so ignorant or negative or too busy with nothing or are you purely laidback? No! It is the sheer absence of a helping hand. A hand that would bring everyone to the sunshine. The dawn of all good cheers, the ray of freedom from dark clouds, the light that gives the strength to speak the truth and make all stand to face it.

There is no room for further clarification or a push to anyone to live his own life the way he wishes to. So live life, enjoy life and most of all give way to your own self to breathe the essence of your life.

Criticized When Cared

How many of you have the habit of criticizing those who care for you? Like your parents, friends or spouse, kids or anyone else. Moreover, why do you do that? Because it is ‘Human Nature’! It is fine as long as those caring for you are patient. How long do you think they are going to be patient with you? Until they find someone else who cares to care. The one who would reciprocate love with love.

If you still have them, hold on to them before they are gone forever. You may or may not find anyone else again. Do away with your nature of repelling love.

All Of Us Have The Same Story!

Have you noticed this before? I think you all must have had this thought in your mind. We all are the same. Some are born partially able, some are obese, and some with a secret sixth sense and some just like everyone else. But apart from physical traits, what else is it that we all have in common?

It is your life. I am sure you would argue that your life is different from Late Michael Jackson or Madonna or for that matter from me. However, I would say that the only difference between anyone else and you is that they have done their jobs and you are still doing it.

Still not convinced? Hmm… When you sit calm in a chair, when no one is watching, our alert mind scans a number of productive, inspiring and successful tips and ideas to change or better your life. All the ideas are of the kind that would bring you what you really want. No one knows about it. Just you.

Those who follow those flying thoughts by giving it a green signal eventually end up doing those and achieving their long term goals. You are tired and sick of reading those books on positive thinking, meditation etc that promise to bring about a revolutionary change in you. Do they? Yes! But to some extent. And for those on whom nothing worked…

Well it could have, if you had done just the last and the finishing step. Acknowledge the thoughts that look either too small like a mole or too big like a mountain. Nobody can tell what your dream is. Nor can anyone suggest you to follow your heart. How will anyone? Program your mind to consider your brilliant ideas and it will take you through the right learning paths and land you at your destiny.,.

To conclude I would like to clear that all of us have ambitions. Many end up not having them. You get sad and unhappy. When all are similar in some way or the other, why do you not understand the other? Consider everyone and be soft when passing judgments on him or her. You never know how many times you were or will be allowed to dream your way. But everyone waits to laugh at another’s fall…

Pain – Conquer It The Easiest Possible Way!

Could pain and painful memories be erased from your mind forever? Yes, it could be! All you have to understand is that you are born like original Pearls. You HAVE to go through this hot, very hot furnace. This rubs away all the added excitement, fuss, over confidence, surface level beliefs and all those attributes which do not contribute in fulfilling your own dreams.

Always and always remember to keep your essence warm inside you, so that once the dark phase of your life withers away, you are ready with yourself and your basic self that you are! This would do you one thing. Not mold you according to your painful experiences. This will preserve your self-confidence, the excitement you are born with and the child in you. This child is always happy, never bothered about what others think when you are doing what you like. Like play, eat, fall….

Now who does not want to enjoy life the way you did as a kid?

Revenge

I was a very mellow girl, never into pay back. I thought someone would definitely take care of those who trouble me. I never retaliated. Only when I would get too upset would I shout back. And I never abused. That made me what I was back then.

Now I experience myself. Life is fair because I made it fair. When they said nobody would help you, it never was totally understood by me. Now I do. I abuse, I beat, I take the person’s case who even tries to try my patience. And I feel good. Not like a saint but like how a woman should!

Now I know why some people live life like animals and get away with it. Because they do what they want and live by their rules. Some cross a river without thinking a second time and some just keep thinking. I create my own limits and stretch it further as the need arises. After all, those who dare to stop me are exactly the kind of people who never stop to boast about themselves!